This quote jumped out at me from Harvard Business Review’s November 2016 issue. While I’m the feminine-appearing half of Lynne’s and my partnership, I’m more masculine in personality. I value logic more than emotions, I’m impatient, and I tend to spend minimal time thinking about all the ways my words could be construed, or about whether or not I should speak up. If I want something, I go after it. I don’t communicate “in between the lines.” Sounds like your stereotypical dude, right? Hi, that’s me and I’m wearing MAC lipstick and an Anthropologie shirt.
It’s not that I can’t read people well—I can—it’s that I don’t bother, or haven’t until recently. I’ve been self-absorbed, thinking of my own business plans or ideas, the way I think most men are raised to be, and the way I was raised to be.
I say all this so that if you are reading this and if you relate, especially if you’re a dude, especially if you’re an older dude, that you will know before you continue reading that I get you, so I am not judging or scolding patronizingly when I say: